This month I celebrated my birthday. I turned thirty-four.
It has been an interesting 34 years. It has especially been an interesting year.
God has put me through and is still putting me through situations and adventures that I never expected. He is molding me and bending me to be who he wants me to be.
34 is not a huge benchmark birthday. To be honest I couldn’t even remember what birthday I was celebrating this year. I really had to think about it! But so much has happened in these years that I have to share with you the important life lessons I’ve learned so far.
I left my home country at the age of 7 and immigrated to the United States with my family.
I have been married for almost 15 years to my best friend.
I’ve been a parent for 9.5 years.
I’ve recovered from 3 c-sections.
I’ve gotten a bachelors degree, worked in my field, got laid off, worked again, and finally quit.
I became a stay-at-home-mom.
I became a homeschooler.
I sold the home that I lived in for 12 years.
I moved back in with my parents…with my entire family of 5.
I’ve gone through the emotions of finding out my child has a rare microdeletion and as a result, has autism and ADHD. Read Our Story.
I’ve deadlifted over 200lb.
I’ve supported my husband through a career change.
And that’s just to name a few.
All of these life events taught me many lessons. I would like to share 10 with you.
10 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned So Far
1. Your life will be different than you planned at 14.
As a teenager, you can never be quite sure how your life will really turn out. I never thought I would be a stay-at-home homeschooling mom and wife of a Law Enforcement Officer.
2. Relationships are 100/100, or they will fall apart.
When one person starts giving less, the relationship will start to suffer. It doesn’t have to end but it will become more work.
3. You can love way more than you ever thought possible.
You think you love your spouse so much, and then you have kids…
And the love you have for your children is like nothing you thought possible.
…and then you find out your child has autism. And the love you have for them magnifies and multiplies and you think and you know that your love will get them through anything.
4. Trusting God is important, even if you don’t understand why He’s doing what He’s doing.
I may be a
control freak recovering perfectionist but I learned to give up and let God take control even and especially when I don’t understand.
5. Listen to your body. It’s very good at telling you when you need to take a break or slow down.
This has happened this year really. Taking care of 3 kids, a husband and this blog, I’ve learned to give myself a break when my body is telling me I’m doing too much.
6. You can decide to have a good day.
I wake up in the morning and if I’m feeling tired, or cranky, I make a decision to have a good day.
7. Mom’s can change the world, or at least their child’s world.
I fight for my child’s rights. I fight for what he deserves.
I started this blog to help mama’s do the same for their children. I want to change mom’s and children’s lives so they can live their best life.
8. God hears your prayers even before you say them.
There have been way too many times when I didn’t even have a chance to pray and God already answered.
9. God is good, all the time.
I can see this throughout my life.
10. I can be 34 and feel 21.
I think anyone can relate.
There you have it. 10 Important life lessons I’ve learned so far in my short 34 years of life.
Our lives are unpredictable yet amazing. Filled with hardships but also with triumphs.
What life lessons have you learned?